There was a TED talk years ago, not safe for young viewers, in which a woman who lives a promiscuous hedonistic lifestyle spoke about the unrealistic harmful effects of pornography. In her video she talks about how the fake version of sex portrayed in pornography impairs the ability of people attempting to have actual sex by giving them false information and wrong expectations about how to relate to each other in a sexual way. Ironically, she lives the kind of lifestyle pornography pretends to portray.
Each of us is unique. Even if those being filmed were not being scripted and somehow managed not to change their behavior from knowing they are on camera, even if what you saw was not fake, it would still be harmful in giving false expectations. What other individuals share is different than what you will experience because we are all unique.
In The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, Edmund ate food that was enchanted by witchcraft in order to make whoever ate it want to eat more and more. One of the reasons pornography becomes an addiction is because it does not satisfy the human need for intimacy. Consuming it leaves you unfulfilled. It is a hollow and empty counterfeit version which literally has the same effect as if abusing a drug.
There are more ways to be intimate with someone than just physically. You also need the other aspects if you want to be truly satisfied and fulfilled.
Once in a committed relationship, learn to appreciate nuance rather than novelty and do not neglect being emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually intimate. Don't neglect other needs either. Exercise can improve mental as well as physical health. Having a life out of balance can lead to addictions.
Pornography is destructive to relationships and to families.
If you are unable to quit completely, or if you don't want to quit but recognize you have a problem, addiction recovery meetings can help.
There is hope and healing available if you are willing to consistently go to the meetings.
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